Thoughts on Self-Love

“You’re worthy simply because you exist.”

Terri Cole


When we talk about self-care and self-love, there are so many ideas and examples of ways in which we can take care of ourselves, embrace who we are, and keep our own cup full so that we can share out of our overflow with others.


Giving yourself some TLC:

Emotionally

Taking time for grief

A hot bath

A good book


Physically

A walk in nature

Yoga

A Massage


Spiritually

Quiet time

Prayer time

Taking time to journal dreams and messages

Chanting


Mentally

Meditation


Body, Mind and Spirit

Aromatherapy

Reiki


Out of all the ideas I’ve read about or practiced (we are probably all familiar with at least some of these acts of self-care and love), I never considered the act of receiving compliments and praise as one of them.


How do you talk to yourself?

How do you talk about yourself?

What do others compliment you on?


When we deflect a compliment, we do not take responsibility for the work, talent, and effort we have put into our successes. We deny our own value. We belittle our own worth.

A compliment is like being given a beautifully wrapped gift. – Terri Cole

We receive the gift by saying, “Thank you!”

When our response to a compliment is to deny its merit, it is like throwing the gift down and stomping on it.Terri Cole


Do you deflect compliments by putting yourself down?


For example:

“That is a beautiful painting!”

“Yes but, I messed this part up.”


“Someone else can’t love you enough to create self-love. It’s only you that can take the actions that will create a good relationship with yourself… and true self-love creates self-esteem.”

Terri Cole


It’s an inside job ๐ŸŒŸ


Cover photo by Allie Smith

Article photo by Christin Hume

10 Comments

  1. naaiba

    This was so accurate and wonderful to read! I recently published a piece on my blog called five steps on your journey to selflove and I would love to invite you to have a read! The blog is called searchingforconfidence.wordoress.com and seeing you there would mean so much! All the best

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  2. theinspace

    So interesting to read ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿปโค๏ธ We really touch on so many of the same points of self-love, just interpret those points slightly differently. Id love and appreciate if you’d give my Self-love posts a read ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿปโค๏ธโค๏ธ

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