by Beth Haley
I thought I would share some paint 🎨 today. This is a favorite that I’ve done recently on canvas.
“Rainbow Coral”
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Patterns of Lineage
by Beth Haley
Today, I was taking notes while I listened to Sahara Rose on the Highest Self Podcast with speaker and author Heatherash Amara, which is titled “Warrior Goddess Women Training”, and thinking, “There’s no way I can fit this into one post.” So this is just a brief look at the topic of clearing patterns from our lineage.
When we look at ancestral patterns we can see how certain issues pass down from generation to generation. For example, I’ve heard people say many times: my great-great grandmother had diabetes, my mother had diabetes, and I have diabetes. It’s just hereditary. On the physical, it can be easy to see how patterns pass down. The same can be true in other areas as well. How about culturally? How about energetically?
Sahara explains how, in her family, all the generations of females before her have been in child marriages. Women had no equal rights. So Sahara’s story could have been: I’ll just wait for a husband to choose me, and live out my life as all the women have done before me.
However, she is re-writing the story of her lineage, day by day, with her own life:
“She just got married to someone of her own choice, by the freedom of her own will, she has equal partnership in the relationship, and she is a working woman who has income.” -Sahara Rose
“This is literally the first time this has happened in my lineage. So we’re re-writing the story.”
-Sahara Rose
For others it may be re-writing the story of poverty, or shame, or for sexual liberation. We’re re-writing such patterns as: My family has always been poor so I’ll always be poor.
And this is where we come now to a generation that says, “Not again. It stops here. This stops with me.”
Because of the fact that in previous generations, there has not been a choice, “I am going to take ultimate choice and freedom in this lifetime because I know it is not something that can be taken for granted. So with that I will choose more, I will shine brighter, I will be louder, I will be even more expressed for all of my ancestors that have not had that capacity available to them.”
-Sahara Rose
“As adults, we then have “choice” to begin to decide: what do I want to carry forward from my lineage?”
-Heatherash Amara
Many times, we don’t realize what we are carrying forward, we just think, “Oh, this is just me, this is just my baggage.” Until, we start looking at ancestral patterns.
Heatherash Amara says: “I find when I start teaching women to look at what they learned from their ancestors, and what they’re carrying forward, pretty quickly women are like, “Oh wow, I’m not broken,” or “I’m not personally responsible for all of these things that I am carrying, it’s actually something that I’m carrying forward form my lineage,” because I didn’t realize it. “And then they’re able to make a choice.”
“We want to carry forward the things that are the best from our lineage, and I know that’s what our ancestors would want the most for us as well.”
-Heatherash Amara
There’s so much more on this topic, and I look forward to learning and sharing more about the topic of clearing our life from things we don’t need to carry forward.
One more thought: the freedom to choose how we want to live life is an immeasurable privilege. It is having the freedom to choose to stay home or be the woman who works. I found it to be an immense privilege and honor to stay home with my children while they were growing up. But it was because I had the freedom not to, if I so chose. And that’s the difference.
Choice. Freedom.
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Toxic Thoughts…
by Beth Haley
I’ve read a lot recently on thoughts. Especially negative thinking, or stinkin’ thinking, as I’ve heard it called. These are thoughts that hold us back. They poison our potential, and sour our outlook. We all have them:
Not you
You’re not pretty enough
You’re too old
You’re too gay
You’re not good enough
You’re not perfect enough
You’re not skilled enough
Somebody else is better
If you would, allow the idea that toxic thoughts can serve a positive purpose.
One idea I came across is to use negative thoughts as launching pads towards growth and healing. They are telling us something about ourself. What are they pointing to?
For example, thoughts such as, “I can’t do this”, “I’m not ready” or “I’m not good enough at this” can point to the need to dig into deeper study, gather more knowledge, get more training, or be more prepared. With a little extra work, you may find that those thoughts change along with your confidence level to: “I’m ready”, “I can do this”, and “I am good enough at this”!
In real-estate,
Love it or list it.
And, if it’s not serving you
well, flip it:
Yes you
You’re pretty enough
You’re not too old
You’re not too gay
You’re good enough
You’re perfect enough
You’re skilled enough
You shine
What are our toxic thoughts pointing to?
How can we use them for growth or healing?
How can we flip them into positive affirmations?
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Blogger Recognition
I’d like to thank Ashok for nominating me! His blog is called “Musings of a Wanderer” where he inspires us all with his beautiful pictures and writings! Thank you so much Ashok for including me in this award 🤩
About the Blogger Recognition Award
The Blogger Recognition Award is an award given in recognition of all the hard work that goes into creating a blog. It is a way for bloggers to support, motivate and promote other bloggers who have clearly put in huge amounts of time and effort, and produced valuable content.
Bloggers are very talented people – they work hard, they promote, market, advertise, and run a busy site.
They organise all kinds of activities, they encourage, motivate, interact, engage and are community orientated. It matters not if they are shy and reticent or loud and personable – each actively progressive blogger is the same – they all work hard and passionately with their blogs, they put the hours in to deliver to their audience each day a welcoming location to read, absorb, learn and have fun.
To escape the hustle bustles of city life, or the begrudgeries of boredom – they entice readers to peruse their pages to look for entertainment.
That is what the BRA celebrates.
Award Rules
• Write a post displaying your award.
• Thank the blogger(s) who nominated you, and provide a link to their blog.
• Tell the story of how your blog started.
• Give two pieces of advice for new bloggers.
• Nominate other bloggers for the award.
• Let the nominees know that you have nominated them.
How my blog Started
When I went to college, I really didn’t know what I wanted to do. I just chose to study what I was interested in. Alternative health is very broad and covers so many different therapies. Once I received my Bachelor’s degree in Alternative and Complimentary health, I realized I was interested in so much of it, rather than one particular health modality.
Five years went by, and I hadn’t done anything with my degree. There was no particular area I wanted to specialize in. And it just hit me one day, why not just write about all of it? So, in April 2019, I started writing for my degree. Now I think of having a really broad field of study as a bonus.
The first few months were hard. I don’t know how many people have created a web site and blog using only their phone? I wasn’t used to writing every day, and when I started out, those first few weeks, it was more about learning WordPress than writing. I’ve gradually gotten to where a day doesn’t feel complete until I’ve written
something for my blog.😊 Now I use a tablet at times so I’m not always on such a small screen.
TWO PIECES OF ADVICE TO NEW BLOGGERS
•There are a lot of blogs that give out great advice on writing and blogging! Learn from them and your fellow bloggers! And, like Ashok said, DON’T QUIT! Interact and connect with people and you’ll start building your friendships and followers.
•Share your genuine self with the world! One word and post at a time. Have fun!
I don’t know if everyone participates with the awards, but these are just a few of my favorite blogs (and there’s so many more!):
One blog I love for their thought-provoking questions every day is:
Bogdan at Pointless Overthinking
Writing:
G. Edward Smith at A Writers Existence
Art:
Alex Markovich at Rus Art Blog
&
Nature and Photography:
Steve at Steves Country
Plants, plants and more Magical Plants:
Inspiration, Art and Quotes:
Ilona has written on so many great topics from Depression to Vaccines!
Ilona Madam at Easydiet.blog
Traveler
Sam at Living
Each blog is unique and I hope you pay them a visit 😊
Thank you again Ashok!
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Body, Mind and Spirit
I visited with a friend recently who lives on 12 acres of wooded paradise. We went out to explore the woods, and stepping through this portal was like being transported into another realm.
For the Mind
The city behind me, the woods before me. Just for now, I leave it all behind. My busy mind is stilled.
Mindful.
What had been, becomes what is right now; in this moment, this beauty to behold. Scattered thoughts stop their scurry and rush, within the sacred hush of this grove.
For the Body
A breath of wind makes leaves dance
The creek chuckles as twilight approaches
The woods yawn, and the trees stretch their arms up higher
An owl signals through the dim forest light, “Who?”
Always seeing
Always knowing
My body soaks up this green elixir of refreshment
For the Spirit
Nature’s sacred temple
Communion
Presence
Listening
Sanctuary
I used to bring my children out under the trees and say, “Listen!” There would be no sound, and they would look around puzzled. Then, a gentle breeze would move by and they’d hear it:
“The trees are clapping their hands!”
All that is,
worships and honors,
all that is.
And here is one more of the mushrooms as I had an inquiry as to what they were in the above picture 🍄 I think this one is easier to see what they are 😊
These photos I took in the woods with my phone. I wish I could size them on the post better… but one determines the rest of them it seems. They’re either too small or too large. On a phone though I think they look ok.
Have you taken some time in nature lately? 😊
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Post-It Notes 7
This section of poetry came from a poem called “Revelation of the Light” written by “Emerging from the Dark Night.” Thank you so much for allowing me to use this on my page 😊
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Liebster Award 😊
I was nominated for the Liebster Award! 😊 I am honored to be nominated for the Liebster Award by Mr. Holliman at “A Happy Life” where you “Live Happy, Live Healthy, and Travel!” Thank you so much! 😊
You can check out his blog here.
The Rules:
1. Thank the blogger(s) who nominated you.
2. Share 11 facts about yourself.
3. Answer the 11 questions the blogger(s) asked you.
4. Nominate 11 bloggers and make them happy!!
5. Make up to 11 questions and ask them to your nominees!
6. Notify your 11 nominees.
11 facts about me
- I was born in the high desert of Nevada
- I love animals, plants, and nature
- I love learning new things and passing them on
- I love making teas from medicinal herbs
- I am making my first tincture out of brandy. We’ll see how it turns out this month!
- I was a competitive swimmer in high school
- I start school with the Institute for Integrative Nutrition this month
- I love paint pouring
- I love making cold-process soap
- I love audible.com
- I kayak
I nominate the following bloggers and my questions are below if you choose to participate.
- Emergingfromthedarknight.wordpress.com
- Biggerthanmemovement.com
- Ashokwahi.wordpress.com
- Thisweirdchicksblog.com
- Rontamirnehr.com
- Lancesheridan.com
- Betulerbasi.com
- Sabaniazsiddique.home.blog
- Tonystarlingkidd.com
- Gedwardsmithblog.com
- Greenmagick.wordpress.com
Mr. Holliman’s 11 questions for his nominees:
1. What is your favorite movie? Secretariat
2. Do you feel that GOD is with you at all times? The Divine is with me always and is in all things.
3. Do you watch sports (NBA-NFL)? If so who is your one favorite player from each sport? Sometimes I catch a random game. Usually the Super Bowl but I don’t have a particular team or player.
4. What do you like rain or snow? why? Both! There’s a magickal, hushed Stillness that settles over the land as you watch flakes fall. And rain because the sound of its patter is soothing to the soul. The smell of damp, fresh, rain-touched earth is like none other.
5. What is your most important goal in life? Happiness and Home.
6. What is your favorite book? why? “Meditation for your Life”. I taught a Bibliomancy class using this book.
7. Have you ever skydived before? If so how was it? NOT.
8. What is your favorite color? Turquoise.
9. Do you have any pet(s)? I have a Chihuahua named Peanut, a cat named Patsy (yes Cline), a snake plant named Lacie, and many other plant friends.
10. What one of your best memories in your life with your family? Probably singing around the table before dinner. I always wished they wouldn’t do this at restaurants though!
11. What motivates you to keep blogging? I love learning and writing is a part of the process. Besides, sharing is also fun.
Beth’s 11 questions for her nominees:
- Favorite book?
- On a scale of 1-10 how would you rate your health?
- Favorite motivational speaker?
- Do you meditate?
- Favorite game?
- Favorite food?
- Favorite place?
- Favorite song?
- Favorite season?
- Favorite hobby?
- Morning person or night owl?
Picture Credit: A_Different_Perspective@Pixabay
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Memory Observation Practice
by Beth Haley
Observation skills can take some time to develop. When you’re in the middle of reacting, it’s hard to remember that you have other options. The goal of observing emotions and responses can be forgotten in the storm of the moment, and sometimes it feels like the commitment to make a choice between one response versus another, is overridden by the events and emotions. It can be discouraging, but mindfully observing yourself during triggering moments, does improve over time.
Memory Observation Exercise
Find a comfortable position in a peaceful, safe space and close your eyes.
Take a deep cleansing breath, in through your nose, and exhale away any tension out through your mouth.
And another deep cleansing breath in through your belly, and blow away any remaining tension.
Now turn your mind back to a recent memory where you became upset or felt triggered. Let this memory return in full detail, and just sit with it and observe. Look at every part of the event…the room, the temperature, textures and colors… who was there, and what is being said.
Let your emotions build as the scene unfolds again in your mind, and see and hear what is happening. Just watch and listen until your emotion in that space is strong enough to observe. As you observe this feeling, see if you can name it, and try to name any other feelings you notice.
What thoughts come up during this time? Thoughts about the situation…thoughts about the emotion or feelings?
What physical sensations go with your emotions? Do you feel it in a specific place in your body? Notice sensations in your head, face, chest, arms, stomach and legs.
What does the emotion make you feel like doing? What urges rise to the surface? Observe how you respond. Are you swept away on the swell of emotion, or can you see a choice in how you respond?
Now, while you are in this safe and quiet space, with more time to think and analyze, can you develop, through this exercise, a game-plan you want to follow the next time you are triggered in the same way?
By really sinking into a memory by observing it, you may get a sense of having a choice, and be able to separate yourself from the same old actions and reactions (withdraw, attack, blowup, deflect) and redefine a new way of being and responding.
Journal the emotions, thoughts, sensations, and urges you encounter during this exercise. After doing this exercise a few times, you will get more accustomed to observing your triggered reactions. The more you become used to watching your reactions from the past, the better you will become at observing triggers as they happen in real-time. You’ll begin to notice moments of choice where you start to define new ways of interacting and responding to stressful situations.
We can learn to watch our emotional sky and feel and see what the weather is like. We can choose to watch a storm instead of react to it, or become the sky, holding an experience, rather than being tossed around by it.
That old sense of helplessness, where you felt forced to react to everything that triggered you, will, with time, no longer define you. Instead, you can stand at a distance, watching people or situations that trigger you, watching your emotions and urges, and still feel a sense of choice.
Emotions don’t have to dictate your behavior; you will decide what matters in your life, and you will choose what to do.
Another View
Perhaps, like me, with some memories, you’re not ready for a new game-plan. As in, there is no action required, other than to heal. It may be that in order to heal, you let the memory unfold just to be with it. To acknowledge what happened and what is felt, not pushing any part of it away, but pulling the feelings close, embracing them in acceptance; letting them find their expression, perhaps for the first time, and allowing healing to come.
A good exercise for healing past trauma, is to visualize your twin self entering the space you are at in this memory. And, walking up to you, they offer to you exactly what you need. Maybe it is a hug, to be held, to be heard, to be told specific words; perhaps it is to comfort the child that is you in this memory. Allow your twin-self to give you whatever you need at that point in time.
Note: if the image of your twin-self doesn’t resonate with you, substitute this for something that really reaches you, such as: an Angel, God, a parent, Goddess, Source, The Great Spirit, The Divine…
A great post on “How Memories Affect our Present” from Pointlessoverthinking.com:
http://pointlessoverthinking.com/2019/07/01/how-memories-affect-our-present-reblog/
Source: The Interpersonal Problems Workbook
by Matthew McKay, PhD
Patrick Fanning
Avigail Lev, PsyD
Michelle Skeen, PsyDPhoto Credit: jplenio@pixabay
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Turmeric Face Mask
I was looking through a book today called “Herbal Goddess” by Amy Jirsa and came across a Turmeric Face Mask recipe. However, I was out of a few ingredients.
I am not sure why shopping is so hard for me, but if I’m out of something, I just make due if possible. I am the Grocery-Store-Avoider! So, I crafted with what I had on hand.
**Test on a small area of skin first to check for allergic reactions.
Thela’s Turmeric Face Mask Shortcut
Use a favorite store-bought face mask mix you already have on hand.
Put the amount of mask mixture needed to cover your face, into a bowl, and mix in 1tsp organic Turmeric powder.
I used a natural clay mask that is infused with essential oils, and added the Turmeric to that.
If you have apple cider vinegar, this adds astringent benefits and makes a great toner. Add just enough to your mask mix to keep the thickness you need.
Benefits
Turmeric is good for troubled skin conditions such as redness, eczema, and rosacea. Its natural antiseptic qualities are excellent for treating acne.
Note: a good time to try this is a day where you can be at home. Turmeric makes my face look like I have a tan, but it can turn skin a bit yellow.
Photo Credit: Ajale@Pixabay
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Healing Sound
by Beth Haley
This year, a friend that I work with passed away suddenly. In the midst of our shock, and the grief of our loss, his passing also brought a special blessing into my home.
Her name is Patsy, and she was his baby.
Today, I went looking for some soothing music to play for the babies while they slept and I worked on tonight’s meditation for class.
Originally Peanut, my chihuahua, was the only one laying on the pillow. She just had surgery, and got her stitches taken out yesterday. I plugged in the phone, and laid it on the pillow beside her.
There are many, many times I will plug in the phone and lay it down on whatever surface I’m near. Couch, floors, pillows, blankets… It’s pretty unremarkable. This has never drawn attention before. No one is interested in this phenomenon, regardless of where I lay it.
But today, when I looked over, I was surprised to see Patsy: she wasn’t laying close to the phone…she had positioned her body so that she was laying on it. The music I was playing is a Solfeggio soundtrack with the frequency of 741HZ called Dissolve Toxins and Cleanse Infections by Meditative Mind.
Patsy has Feline Leukemia.
I didn’t intend to run an experiment on the effects of healing sound frequencies on fur babies, but this was the result.
Pilgrimage Studio 