The seeds of hopes and dreams are planted in our heart and mind where we nurture and tend their growth, day by day.
Tag: Complimentary Health
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Writing Tool
by Beth Haley
This is a tool that I was introduced to for writing your story. It helps you to remember and analyze your earlier life experiences. You also work on your present by examining personality shadows and then you focus on your personality strengths. Finally, it helps you visualize your best future. You make a plan to implement your goals and how to bring them to fruition. I have been writing in this program since 2018, and I sent a friend this program, which has been helpful to her as well.
Self Authoring Suite
“The Self-Authoring Suite is a series of online writing programs that collectively help you explore your past, present and future.”
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Share Care
by Beth Haley
We don’t always know how to find the right doctor or what questions to ask. Or, how to answer questions. In my first day of class I listened to Dr. Oz speak about this topic. He mentioned an app where you can ask health questions called AskMD but I haven’t had luck with this app. The app from his ShareCare site is ShareCare. This app helps with health management, measuring your health, and helps the individual with their personal well-being journey.
Maybe this will be helpful to you as well. 😎
About ShareCare
Created by digital health pioneer, Jeff Arnold
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Post-It Notes 8
I’ve so enjoyed Justin Michael Williams’ class at DailyOm called Meditations for Manifestation Action!!
A story:
At class we had been talking about typos and how it’s hard to catch your own. I posted this on my Instagram, and Justin Michael Williams commented on it. It wasn’t until after this that I noticed the typo. With Instagram you can’t exchange an image without losing the comments that went with the original image.
So, It will forever remain (as below) with the typo 😂 😜
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Use your Past
by Beth Haley
In looking at common thinking on the topic of our past, I see the same messages over and over:
Leave the past behind
Don’t allow your past to limit your life
Don’t be controlled by your past
Don’t allow your past backstory to define you
Make peace with your past
Heal your past
How to move on
Leave your past in the past
These are all great, but I was looking for something different. I didn’t know what, but in the middle of this search, I came across a new message I did not expect. Perhaps not new so much as, approaching the topic of our past from a different angle.
Aditya Jaykumar Iyer says it like this: “Use your circumstances and your childhood memories to your advantage.”
We can accept the past, heal, and move on. However, we can also use it.
I have often thought about the memories and circumstances of the past and wondered what it was all about. What was the point? Yet those memories, liked or unliked, make up our story.
It seems that we often work for a separation from the past to start out new…? We want a divorce from what was. We segregate these memories or these circumstances (the past) and say, “You stay in the trash pile. You don’t benefit me anymore. Or, you never benefitted me at all. All I want to do is move on.”
But, what do you find when you analyze your life story so far… you might find that many things from the past have prepared you for this exact moment in time… that your voice is needed at this time, because you have something to say that no one else can say. Because there is only one you and no one else has your exact story.
After all, what is only half a story? If your story started today, you’d lose a lot of the background that made you who you are in the first place. What makes your voice unique? What have been the disadvantages and advantages that make you who you are? Your story, comes from your entire life, not just part of it, not from only the parts that you liked, but from the whole picture.
In working to move forward and step into new things, its funny, but:
“Life has a way of bringing us back a full circle.”
When outside influences want you to adhere to the status quo or to a certain standard, what is it about you, that brings you back to your own voice? If you revisit experiences you’ve had, you may find clues that were always there, pointing you in the direction of your path now.
“A path is not a straight line. It’s a cycle.”
Life has seasons. It changes and grows, twists and turns, but all of your experiences combined is where the depth of your story and the strength of your individual voice comes from.
Aditya Jaykumar Iyer may have been talking about careers, but I really liked this message applied to the overall topic of “Our Past”.
Allowing. Acceptance. These are struggle words for me. I always want to resist the things I haven’t liked or don’t like now. But I’m being encouraged more and more to allow and accept and use what was and is, to move forward.
Your past doesn’t have to be segregated, it can be sourced and used.
BH2019
I can also see in this message (allowing it and using it) the true meaning of: Make peace with your past.
Source:
Life lessons I’ve learned after doing 300 podcast episodes: Part 1
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You are my Inspiration
by Beth Haley
Today seemed to be all about synchronicity. Message after message spoke to me about familiar places I’ve visited on my journey recently. 😊
Writer’s Block
Almost every day, I enter my writing time with, literally, no idea what I will write about. I gather my books, listen to my podcasts, watch videos, listen to my audio books, and I wait…for that spark of inspiration. Sometimes it’s a picture, or a quote, a voice, a song, or lyrics. Today however, my thoughts were inspired by my fellow bloggers and here are some highlights.
East Coast Approach wrote today about Beginners Bloggers Block, which I work through almost daily, and I enjoyed the thoughts!
Secret Places, Sacred Spaces
I have finally turned a room into a meditation space. It’s been a long time in coming, but its so nice to have this zen space at last. I came across this beautiful thought today at Puplerays called Create your own Secret Place. Talk about synchronicity. 😊
Change
I’ve been brooding over change recently. I’ve been having these visions where I see on my left side, what has been (old thoughts and ways of believing and being) and on my right side I see the new ideas and the state of being I am drawing towards. And I see me in the middle. Not caught. There’s a waver here and there; those moments where you hesitate between what is old and comfortable, and the new and a bit scary. Wobbly at times, but still moving forward.
The vision I really don’t like is with me sitting on the fence between two concepts. I don’t want the fence. It always reminds me of Karate Kid and “Squash like grape…”
Being in the middle of change is not the same as being stuck. I’m moving away from one state of being, towards new ways… I’m not quite there yet with all of it, but It’s still progress. I’m still moving. Some days its hard to be patient.
So today, of course, I came across a post called Things by The Bigger Than me Movement, which is all about change and patience.
And as I read this post, I kept hearing these words:
“The world is changed. I feel it in the water, I feel it in the earth. I smell it in the air…”
–LOTR
Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
As someone who struggles with social phobia, I am very conscious about pushing myself to stay involved with my people and groups. Otherwise, I’d never leave the house. This is my therapy: To leave home everyday, take up my courage, and forge the connections I so desire, despite the fear.
On the other side of this, I forget sometimes that it is also ok to set aside my alone time to reboot. As an HSP, the wear and tear of noise, light, and people can be completely exhausting. With my constant onward push to always be moving forward, I needed this reminder today to take a time-out when needed, in the sheltering arms of peace and quiet…my soul’s haven.
I remind myself that I am not caught in the middle. It is a matter of choice: what do I need most right now? A time out, or connection. The choice is mine.
What about when I can’t have it both ways? When I’m out and about and I am not able to step away, I remind myself that there is peace waiting for me at home, and that I am almost there. I keep home in sight throughout the day. My sanity!
I came across this post today and had to smile: JoyPassionDesire
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This is also an excellent book:
Rest and Guidance
And just when I thought I’d gotten confirmation on all my messages of late, I came across a post about rest and guidance.
Thistle in Avalon: Parting the Mists
It’s time to call it a day, and head for my meditation 🧘♀️ spot! It is amazing the answers I can find when I enter my sacred space, take that quiet moment to search within, and really listen.
We can all create a sacred space. Sometimes it is just a walk in the woods, or listening to the rain. A moment of calm is a sacred space in and of itself.
Have you taken a time-out today to listen?
Last but not least, you are nominated! Please leave your link in the comments section of the Meet and Greet page!
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24 Hours
by Beth Haley
With school starting up again for me in just a few days, I’ve been thinking more about organizing my time for productivity. I am getting nervous about fitting all this into my schedule. I look at what well-known people have accomplished and wonder how they managed it all. But here’s the thing: Oprah, Stephen King, Brene Brown, and the president of any nation… they all have the same 24 hours in their day as I do. So why am I not president already? 🤔🙄😲
Words we associate with time:
It’s a fight against time.
I don’t have enough time.
There’s never enough time.
Time Slips away.
I lost track of time (my favorite).Yet, time is an energy that responds to how we use it.
When do we use these excuses to explain why we aren’t farther along with our projects?
A lot of the “time”?
Maybe the truth is that many of the things we procrastinate with, really aren’t a high priority. It is more empowering to know that we are not a victim of time, but need to define what is the most important for each day.
Time management is an individual experiment and process. Each day seems to have its own flow and some practices work well at certain times and not as well at other times. Sometimes it seems like it is a moment to moment process, and adjustments are needed as we go along.
Some things to consider for time management are as follows:
- When replacing a time-waster habit, replace it with something that helps you toward your goal. What are you wanting to accomplish? Instead of replacing one bad habit for another, such as replacing chocolate chip cookies for eating cocoa mix out of the container, dry, with a spoon…I wish both of those balanced each other out, but alas… replace a bad habit with one that helps in manifesting your intention.
- Distractions, such as phone notifications, can sidetrack your game-plan for endless moments. Instagram? I turn the sound on my phone off when I’m working. Make a list of things that distract you.
- Notice when your energy is at its peak, and when it naturally starts to wane. Plan your busy time for those peak energy hours if you can. (I wish I could do this more).
- Don’t make a huge to-do list (unless this works for you). What can happen with a long to-do list, is it is easy to look at it, feel overwhelmed, and just say, “Maybe another day to all of it.” So pick just one thing you absolutely need to accomplish for the day, and make that your mission. I usually get more things done besides that one thing, but at least I will have gotten that one major thing done toward reaching a goal.
- Create routine
Journaling
- What are the things I truly need to accomplish?
- This week I completed _______ which helped me toward my goal of ______.
- This week I did not complete _______ because ______.
- I am often distracted from my work by _______.
- I remember information better when I ______. (take notes)
- I keep track of my schedule better by ______. This works for me because ______.
- I say no to other projects or people when ______.
- I know that I am getting stressed when ______.
- I have the best energy when I ______. (do my yoga)
- I can focus better when I ______.
What is the most important thing to do, right now?
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Metta Meditation 🧘♀️
by Beth Haley
Pali is a liturgical language native to the Indian subcontinent. Although Sanskrit is older, Pali is also a sacred language of religious texts. The common translation of the Pali word, metta, is “loving-kindness.” It represents friendship, love for self, love for others without self-interest, and a strong intention for the wellbeing of others and the world. It builds generosity and kindness within us as we send our “metta” to all beings, and in their happiness we also find our own.
The wishes of metta are: to live happily, to be free from hostility, affliction and distress, and to be filled with inner love.
First you offer metta to someone you love. Bring their image into your mind, and open your heart as you say your prayer:
May s/he be well, happy, and at ease.
May s/he be cherished and untroubled.
May s/he be healthy and strong.
May s/he have an abundance of well-being,
and may all beings and creatures be blessed.
Now pray metta for yourself:
May I be well, happy, and at ease.
May I be cherished and untroubled.
May I be healthy and strong.
May I have an abundance of well-being,
and may all beings and creatures be blessed.
Then visualize a casual acquaintance (someone neutral), perhaps a neighbor you recognize, but may not know well and extend metta to them in the same way.
The last step is to pray metta for someone who is difficult. It may be something you can do now, or something you work up to doing.
My metta for you:
May you be well, happy, and at ease.
May you be cherished and untroubled.
May you be healthy and strong.
May you have an abundance of well-being,
and may all beings and creatures be blessed.Blessings ❤️
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Patterns of Lineage
by Beth Haley
Today, I was taking notes while I listened to Sahara Rose on the Highest Self Podcast with speaker and author Heatherash Amara, which is titled “Warrior Goddess Women Training”, and thinking, “There’s no way I can fit this into one post.” So this is just a brief look at the topic of clearing patterns from our lineage.
When we look at ancestral patterns we can see how certain issues pass down from generation to generation. For example, I’ve heard people say many times: my great-great grandmother had diabetes, my mother had diabetes, and I have diabetes. It’s just hereditary. On the physical, it can be easy to see how patterns pass down. The same can be true in other areas as well. How about culturally? How about energetically?
Sahara explains how, in her family, all the generations of females before her have been in child marriages. Women had no equal rights. So Sahara’s story could have been: I’ll just wait for a husband to choose me, and live out my life as all the women have done before me.
However, she is re-writing the story of her lineage, day by day, with her own life:
“She just got married to someone of her own choice, by the freedom of her own will, she has equal partnership in the relationship, and she is a working woman who has income.” -Sahara Rose
“This is literally the first time this has happened in my lineage. So we’re re-writing the story.”
-Sahara Rose
For others it may be re-writing the story of poverty, or shame, or for sexual liberation. We’re re-writing such patterns as: My family has always been poor so I’ll always be poor.
And this is where we come now to a generation that says, “Not again. It stops here. This stops with me.”
Because of the fact that in previous generations, there has not been a choice, “I am going to take ultimate choice and freedom in this lifetime because I know it is not something that can be taken for granted. So with that I will choose more, I will shine brighter, I will be louder, I will be even more expressed for all of my ancestors that have not had that capacity available to them.”
-Sahara Rose
“As adults, we then have “choice” to begin to decide: what do I want to carry forward from my lineage?”
-Heatherash Amara
Many times, we don’t realize what we are carrying forward, we just think, “Oh, this is just me, this is just my baggage.” Until, we start looking at ancestral patterns.
Heatherash Amara says: “I find when I start teaching women to look at what they learned from their ancestors, and what they’re carrying forward, pretty quickly women are like, “Oh wow, I’m not broken,” or “I’m not personally responsible for all of these things that I am carrying, it’s actually something that I’m carrying forward form my lineage,” because I didn’t realize it. “And then they’re able to make a choice.”
“We want to carry forward the things that are the best from our lineage, and I know that’s what our ancestors would want the most for us as well.”
-Heatherash Amara
There’s so much more on this topic, and I look forward to learning and sharing more about the topic of clearing our life from things we don’t need to carry forward.
One more thought: the freedom to choose how we want to live life is an immeasurable privilege. It is having the freedom to choose to stay home or be the woman who works. I found it to be an immense privilege and honor to stay home with my children while they were growing up. But it was because I had the freedom not to, if I so chose. And that’s the difference.
Choice. Freedom.
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Toxic Thoughts…
by Beth Haley
I’ve read a lot recently on thoughts. Especially negative thinking, or stinkin’ thinking, as I’ve heard it called. These are thoughts that hold us back. They poison our potential, and sour our outlook. We all have them:
Not you
You’re not pretty enough
You’re too old
You’re too gay
You’re not good enough
You’re not perfect enough
You’re not skilled enough
Somebody else is better
If you would, allow the idea that toxic thoughts can serve a positive purpose.
One idea I came across is to use negative thoughts as launching pads towards growth and healing. They are telling us something about ourself. What are they pointing to?
For example, thoughts such as, “I can’t do this”, “I’m not ready” or “I’m not good enough at this” can point to the need to dig into deeper study, gather more knowledge, get more training, or be more prepared. With a little extra work, you may find that those thoughts change along with your confidence level to: “I’m ready”, “I can do this”, and “I am good enough at this”!
In real-estate,
Love it or list it.
And, if it’s not serving you
well, flip it:
Yes you
You’re pretty enough
You’re not too old
You’re not too gay
You’re good enough
You’re perfect enough
You’re skilled enough
You shine
What are our toxic thoughts pointing to?
How can we use them for growth or healing?
How can we flip them into positive affirmations?
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